The Cycle of Trying and Crashing

Every IUI or IVF cycle begins with hope and ends—sometimes—with heartbreak. The hormonal upheaval is real, but the emotional toll can be even harder to name. Failed fertility treatments can bring a unique form of grief. It’s the loss of possibility. The loss of yet another month. And it’s often invisible to the world around you.

The Quiet Ache No One Talks About

There’s a grief that doesn’t come with condolences. No rituals. No public acknowledgement. For many women, the dream of becoming a mother fades—not with a single decision or diagnosis, but with the slow unfolding of time, circumstance, or conscious choice. And yet, the emotional weight can feel just as heavy as any visible loss.

At Paloma Care, we understand this nuanced sorrow. Our therapists offer a space where you don’t need to explain, justify, or put on a brave face. You’re allowed to grieve—and you’re allowed to heal.

Why This Kind of Grief Feels So Invisible

In our culture, womanhood is still deeply entangled with motherhood. If you haven’t had children by your 40s, society often treats your life as somehow “less than.” Even if you’re fulfilled in other ways, you might:

• Feel a persistent undercurrent of sadness or incompleteness
• Struggle with anniversaries, baby showers, or casual comments from others
• Carry guilt, shame, or a fear of future regret

Why Ignoring the Emotional Impact Makes It Worse

Many women push forward, believing they have to be strong. But suppressing grief, disappointment, or even anger can lead to:

• Emotional burnout
• Disconnection from your partner
• Heightened anxiety and depression

At Paloma Care, we don’t ask you to “stay positive.” We offer a space to be honest—with yourself and with your emotions.

Therapy Can Help You:

• Process ambiguous grief in a compassionate, judgment-free space
• Build meaning and identity beyond motherhood
• Reconnect with your body, desires, and a future that still holds joy
• Understand your emotional limits and needs
• Create new frameworks for hope that include emotional safety
• Explore our support programs for women TTC
• Explore our therapy offerings for women navigating unchosen life paths.

Book a confidential session to begin your healing on your terms.