“I Should Be Able to Do It All… Right?”
From the moment an Indian woman becomes a mother, she is expected to be everything, everywhere, all at once—a perfect parent, a loving wife, a dutiful daughter-in-law, and a career woman who “has it all together.”
But what happens when “doing it all” leaves you exhausted, overwhelmed, and feeling like you’re failing at everything?
The pressure to be a “supermom” is deeply ingrained in Indian culture. Asking for help is often seen as a sign of weakness, incompetence, or worse—selfishness. If you’ve ever felt guilty for needing a break, resented the lack of support, or pushed yourself beyond exhaustion, this article is for you.
Why Do Indian Moms Struggle to Ask for Help?
1. The “Good Mother” Myth
In India, a “good mother” is often portrayed as one who sacrifices everything—her sleep, health, career, and personal happiness—for her child and family. The idea that you should be self-sufficient and never complain makes it hard to ask for support.
2. Fear of Judgment
- “Log kya kahenge?” (What will people say?)
- “If my mother raised three kids alone, why can’t I?”
- “If I get a maid, does that make me lazy?”
These fears stop many moms from reaching out, even when they’re drowning.
3. Lack of Support Systems
In nuclear families, with partners working long hours and little external help, moms are left to do it all. Yet, traditional expectations remain unchanged, making the burden heavier than ever.
4. The Guilt Factor
- “I shouldn’t need a break—I chose to have a baby.”
- “I should be grateful instead of complaining.”
- “My child needs me 24/7, I can’t take time for myself.”
But here’s the truth: A happy, rested mother is a better mother. Guilt serves no one—not you, not your child, and not your family.
Signs You Need to Ask for Help (Before Burnout Hits)
- You feel constantly exhausted, even after rest.
- You snap at your loved ones over small things.
- You feel resentment building up towards your partner or family.
- You have no time for basic self-care (meals, sleep, exercise).
- You feel emotionally drained, isolated, or “empty.”
If you relate to any of these, it’s time to let go of the supermom myth and start asking for help.
How to Break Free from the Supermom Trap
1. Change the Narrative: Strength Is in Seeking Help
- Asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.
- A happy mom raises a happy child. Prioritizing yourself benefits everyone.
- You are not alone—millions of moms feel this way and are learning to set boundaries.
2. Delegate Without Guilt
- Share night feeds with your partner.
- Hire household help if possible—it’s an investment in your well-being.
- Set up a support network—friends, parents, neighbors, mom groups.
3. Make Time for Yourself
- Prioritize at least 30 minutes a day for YOU—reading, exercising, or just resting.
- Small acts of self-care can reset your energy and mood.
4. Normalize Therapy & Professional Help
Your mental health matters. If you’re struggling, talking to a professional can help.
Need Support? Paloma Care Is Here for You
At Paloma Care, we provide expert postpartum mental health support, stress management sessions, and personalized recovery plans—all from the comfort of your home.
- Therapy sessions with experienced counselors
- Expert guidance on managing stress, anxiety, and mom guilt
- Flexible virtual consultations—because your time is precious
Motherhood is hard enough—don’t do it alone. Let’s change the narrative together.
